These are the most common reasons for therapy with me:

The issues I specialize in are often pervasive and lifelong - ADHD, relationship and dating, family conditioning, LGBT identity parts - and thus many people will start therapy because . . .

• they want to understand why they seem to have such poor dating luck
• they want to create changes in their current relationships but unsure how
• they want new strategies and perspectives to help them understand their own minds better
• they want to process new parts of their identity, sexuality, or creativity, but are feeling stuck or internally held back from doing so

People pleasing is a double-edged sword. 

It is nice to feel needed. It is also nice to be nice. But often, a people-pleaser's needs become forgotten or suppressed. Clients working with me will often identify and de-construct the chains that keep them stuck as people-pleasers, such as:

• discovering where these tendencies came from
• finding out how to break the cycle and stuck-ness
• recovering from the damage done
• preventing further damage incurred from over-active people-pleasing

Humans hold a biological need to share their experiences with each other - but sometimes, no one else gets it, or everyone you turn to seems to only reinforce your feeling of loneliness or guilt, or they have their own perspectives that makes them less able to fully see, hear, or validate you. 

A therapist like me will:

• help you process thoughts and emotions that you can't process elsewhere
• help you understand the impact of your thoughts and behaviors on your own psyche
• ask probing and beneath-the-surface questions to help you more deeply understand and integrate your life experiences

Research indicates that emotional intelligence may be the most critical factor in determining satisfactions in relationships. A lower emotional awareness often stunts us in careers, relationships, and in general life fulfillment. With a lower EQ, we are more easily battered by life's chaos, and need more recovery time from the impacts of life's less pleasurable events.

My expertise helps clients to:

• relate more authentically with themselves and others
• nurture greater resilience against life's twists and turns
• stop the cycles of drama and victimization of oneself

Psychedelic medicine is here, and its allowing for a level of professional and personal growth that seemed unreachable by most of Western society. Making sense of this, exploring new health possibilities, and finding a safe, ethical path forward are among the most common reasons clients work with me. Others include:

• understanding the impacts and effects of certain psychedelic medicines
• integrating the impact of psychedelic and spiritual events that you've already experienced
• planning a smart, authentic flight plan for a future psychedelic or spiritual experience

Relationships are complex, and we often enter relationships blind and with little navigation assistance. Clients working with me are looking to:

• nurture their relationship intelligence
• understand the dynamics behind their dating and relating styles
• improve their relationship vocabulary
• identify possible red flags or problem areas before they become unmanageable